Some Ramblings not So Pleasant About ReInvention

Rambling 1 — VdayWell it s the day after Valentine s Day and I survived Why do I say that Well I would love to see Valentine s Day an invented holiday either removed from the list or ReInvented to include just LOVE for all mankind By making VDay as I like to call it about romance it causes more pain than glory Let me explain First there shouldn t be only one day expressly set for people to honor their one and only love I think that might best be done daily And what about spontaneously When I was married I loved it when my husband brought me flowers for no reason at all although some of my friends assumed the worst that he maybe was guilty for something Second by suggesting that Vday is all about romance and love and sex it hurts many people who are dealing with 1 an unhappy relationship with a significant other and the hypocrisy of being honored that one day when many other days are lousy 2 the loneliness of not having a significant other and feeling totally sad about that and not wanting it in your face 3 the sadness of having lost their love as in being widowed divorced etc If on the other hand we make Vday a day to love everyone then it s about acceptance appreciation for our co-workers our children our friends Yes I know there are cards for that and a slight inclination but truly it s all about diamonds and flowers and dinner for two Let s reinvent that Rambling 2 — HolidaysLet s also consider reinventing our relationship to honoring holidays in another way In this day and age a holiday is merely an excuse to 1 Not go to work think of all the people that hate their jobs and actually WANT a day off to not work 2 An opportunity for shopping and commercialism — everyone is home today let s sucker them for all they can or cannot afford to spend on their credit cards You see many holidays could be seen as sacred and significant Think of today we are celebrating and honoring Presidents Lincoln and Washington exactly HOW does that relate to shopping and spending money Here s where I date myself When I was a kid stores were actually ALL closed on Christmas Thanksgiving New Year s Day Fourth of July etc The people who worked in retail actually got that day off and the reasons for the holidays were ever-present there were events to celebrate the value of the day to be with loved ones Now probably only Christmas and Thanksgiving honor that maybe Easter I bet if you were to ask the typical woman man on the street what today means and why it s a holiday they couldn t tell you That s sad Let s reinvent this Rambling 3 — Reinvention is NOT to be feared Some people hear the word ReInvention and totally freak out I actually have people say I can t come to your reinvention workshop I m way to scared I wonder what they are scared about I m not going to suggest they prance naked through the streets I m just suggesting that each and everyone of us take a day or whatever amount of time to look at our lives and inquire into where we might tweak it where it s working where it s not and how we might remedy that Beyond that I might suggest each one of us start becoming the person we are meant to be One of my favorite sayings yes mine is Stop ripping off the world and be who you are meant to be ReInventing is about little steps it s not about doing everything completely different between this moment and the next It s incremental When we die don t we want to feel like we reeealllly lived I don t know about you but I m not willing to settle for how it s always been the status quo I don t think you want to either Let s reinvent our relationship with ReInvention So thanks for letting me ramble on this President s Day holiday It s 11 30 in the morning I m still in my pajamas Of course I work at home so I m often in my pajamas half way through the day I m lucky — don t have to get up and go to work each morning If that annoys you then hey you too can have it if you re willing to give up the daily grind take a risk leap and reinvent Happy Holiday Monday

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